I see it as my job to help my body heal. Not holding on to the hurts of the past is one of the best ways I can do that. Amazingly, as a pain patient I have an easier job of this than others, because chronic pain impairs memory! "Membership has it's privileges..."as my friend Teddy would say as we pulled into a free handicap parking spot with my parking card.
Practicing forgiveness and working to maintain a grudge-free life is part of my emotional maintenance, but actually letting go and forgetting comes easier when I stay centered in the now and work on doing my very best where I am. If I spend most of my concentration focusing on the present, there is less left over for mulling about the past.